Growing up, I never quite fit into the typical mold of masculinity. My name, Minhee, doesn't help either—it carries a fairly feminine connotation in Korean, which only made it harder to feel any strong sense of male identity.

For the longest time, society categorized me as male, and I didn't really push back against that label. I just went along with it.

But over time, I've realized something important: I don't just lack the traits society expects from men—I have zero interest in pursuing what people call “masculine values.” Sometimes I find myself actively rejecting them.

Things really clicked after I met my spouse, Lisa (@tokolovesme). Through our deep, honest conversations, I finally found words for something I'd felt all along: I'm fundamentally different from a typical cisgender, heterosexual man.

I have come to identify as non-binary and bisexual.

After introducing myself as a man for my entire life, claiming this identity—actually saying “I am non-binary”—still feels new and awkward. But I'm starting to share this truth with the people close to me, one conversation at a time.